The Story I Can’t Tell You, Per Patriarchal Gag Order

The patriarchy is real. While its poster boys seem to be tumbling like dominoes, there is still great risk to those who speak out. I can’t write publicly about some of my particulars—you know, the ones that are so raw, honest, and scary specific that my story becomes universal and I feel seen and may … Continue reading The Story I Can’t Tell You, Per Patriarchal Gag Order

When You Dismiss My Internet Friendships as Shallow

Someone told me over the weekend that they have real friends, not "internet friends." It was meant to be a verbal stab. But the place it landed was shiny and tough with scars from the many times extended family have complained about me using my voice, especially in a public forum. I’ve been accused of … Continue reading When You Dismiss My Internet Friendships as Shallow